Upset that Donald Trump is President? – READ THIS

Today is the presidential inauguration of Donald Trump as the 45th president of the United States. Regardless of whether you love Trump or hate him, there is one simple fact you have to accept:

99% of everything that happens to you over the next 4-8 years, good and bad, will be a result of decision and actions that YOU make on a day to day basis.

If you are overweight, in debt, aren’t happy with your job, or your relationships, then don’t talk to me about how Trump is going to ruin your life.

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Money CAN buy you happiness

 I’m sure you’ve all heard the phrase “money can’t buy you happiness”.  I don’t really like using the word “happiness” in this context, because it doesn’t really fully represent what people are trying to say then they repeat this saying.

Happiness is more or less a fleeting emotion, and isn’t necessary 100% of the time to have a fulfilling, amazing life.

I enjoying playing adult kickball and I am super competitive (laugh all you want, that shit is serious). When my team loses a game, I can’t honestly describe my emotional state for the next few hours as ‘happy’. But at the same time, I am not depressed or miserable and I am still content and satisfied with most aspects of my life. You don’t need to be ‘happy’ 100% of the time. You can’t be, really.

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How to get anything you want

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One of the many quirks of being a human is the presence of never-ending desires, physical and mental. Our minds and our bodies make us yearn for things constantly. These things aren’t always ‘things’ – they can be emotions, experiences, or other non tangibles. For most people it would be literally impossible to ever get everything we want. Especially since  once we get it, we eventually just start desiring more.

There will never be a point in your life where you are without any desire for something you don’t have. That thought can be freeing to some, in the same way that accepting you are going to die one day can remove your fear of certain things, but it can also be discouraging; There is no way you can ever totally satisfy all your desires and get EVERYTHING you want.

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I want you to fail spectacularly

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       When embarking on a new endeavor or goal, most of you will be worried about failing. You’ll usually do everything in your power to try to prevent it from happening. This fear of failure will dictate how you structure your attempts at reaching that goal. You may try to minimize your exposure so that if you do fail, it won’t be too bad. Most decisions you make on the path to that goal will be more oriented toward avoiding a big failure than they will be toward actually achieving the goal. People really, really, don’t like to fail.

Well, I like to think about it a little differently;

I want you to fail. And not only do I want you fail, I want you to fail spectacularly. And often.

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Your goals may not be what you think they are – Your emotions are your reality

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Everybody has goals and desires, but what most people don’t realize is that the goal itself is not really what you are after. You are really trying to experience the emotion that comes along with that particular goal.

When somebody says they love their job, they aren’t talking about the emails they send every day, or the commute, or most other of the actual physical or mental tasks they perform day in and day out. They are talking about the way the job makes them feel: respected, important, helpful, indispensable, useful, powerful, secure, whatever.

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Stop asking for permission

 

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                 Earlier today I was listening to The Minimalists Podcast with Joshua Fields Millburn, author of “Everything that Remains” (one of my top 10 books) and he got a question from a reader that asked whether he needs to keep his college diploma, or if he should get rid of it to further his journey of minimalism. Millburn responded to the question by asking,

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Mindset shift: Your self-image is preventing you from getting the results you want

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Mindset is the most important thing you can possibly focus on when it comes to creating the life you want for yourself. As Victor Pride of Bold and Determined says, “The how is nothing. Mindset is everything.”

One aspect of mindset that too many people ignore is self-image, and how a simple mindset shift in your self-image can make all the difference when in comes to accomplishing your goals. Too often people choose a specific measurable benchmark in some area and let that benchmark become the goal itself, and because of that it becomes inseparably linked to their self-image, which actually makes it much more difficult to reach that benchmark.

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Stop following the rules

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For your entire life up until this point you have been living according to a system that wasn’t created by you, wasn’t created for you, and wasn’t even built with your interests in mind.

I’m not referring to the country or political structures per se, but to the very culture and lifestyle that we are raised in. From preschool until the nursing home, we are supposed to follow other people’s rules designed to accomplish other people’s goals. If you want to accomplish your goals, then you have to start living by your rules.

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The 5 Foundations for Success in Life and Business

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*** The following article was contributed by Kevin Knauer ***

 

We have all been in situations where we find ourselves asking how we got there. Why didn’t I see this coming? What did I do to deserve this? How did I end up here? If these questions sound familiar it signifies that you are currently taking a reactive approach in your life. The following five steps are a guide in order to take a more proactive outlook. With enough practice you will start seeing these situations develop and be able to put a stop to them before you find yourself in another negative situation.

 

1)      Observation.  Every interaction takes place within a specified context and environment. The act of observing an environment is really taking a third party look at the specific situation. Take everything into account, such as your physical environment, decorations, people, body language, ect. Ask yourself, “What is the environment saying to me?” Observation will lay the groundwork for which “social rules” must be followed in order to operate within a given context.  For example, a work environment has a different social context than a social outing with close friends. Being around professional peers provides additional rules that must be followed in order to not get fired. However, such as in social situations, you will have access to different social tools to achieve your goals.

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You don’t have to do something new or even better, just DO SOMETHING

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“Being great at everything is not an actionable message.”
– Floris Maljers

“The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something.”
 – Nolan Bushnell

 

A very common excuse or rationalization that people use for why they can’t make money online with a blog, website, youtube channel, product or whatever, is that their desired idea or niche is already being done, and being done better than they could do.

The first problem with this line of thinking is that it is the mindset of a loser. This is a pithy topic that I have touched on before and will expound on further in the future, but it is super important to adopt a mindset of looking for opportunities instead of excuses. They are both always going to be there, and whichever you put time and effort into, that’s what you are going to find.

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