Earlier today I was listening to The Minimalists Podcast with Joshua Fields Millburn, author of “Everything that Remains” (one of my top 10 books) and he got a question from a reader that asked whether he needs to keep his college diploma, or if he should get rid of it to further his journey of minimalism. Millburn responded to the question by asking,
“Are you asking for my permission? you have it, but you don’t need it.”
So many men today are not making the choices they really want because they depend on getting permission from an outside source. Many times this is because they want an excuse for themselves if the decision turns out to be a bad one. They don’t have to blame themselves. By not being the authority in your own life you don’t have to make many decisions. But you don’t GET to make your own decisions either.
May times this authority is a family member or parents. Often a wife or girlfriend, or the law, or any other set of rules you may come across. For many guys it’s all of the above; they are incapable of making a decision on their own without receiving some kind of approval or go-ahead from some source of authority other than themselves.
Be the authority in your own life – Stop asking for permission to live your life on your own terms.