At the time of this writing I have been to most of the states in the union (Alaska, Hawaii, Arizona, Arkansas, North Dakota, Iowa, and Vermont have yet to be graced with my presence). Travelling to a bunch of different cities in over 40 states lets you see a lot of unique places and people – and also lets you find out what is the same everywhere.
One of the things that is the evident almost everywhere in the country is the sad state of the modern American man. The vast majority are in piss-poor condition, physically and fashionably. Most of them wear ill-fitting clothes that drape awkwardly over fat dad-bods.
In a world crawling with uninspiringly average specimens like this, it’s actually quite simple to stand out and be better looking than 80% of guys you will come across (regardless of how naturally good-looking you may or may not be). In fact, it boils down to just two things:
- Get in shape
- Wear clothing that fits.
Obviously there are way more things you can do to really be the best version of yourself possible (Body language and poise, hygiene and grooming, etc) but these two actions will most quickly vault you above average because EVERYBODY out there is fucking it up.
GET IN SHAPE:
If you are at all interested in personal development, self improvement, or really just not being a piece of shit, getting in shape is not optional. You don’t need to look like Mike O’Hearn, but for God’s sake lose the fucking weight. Besides the myriad health and comfort benefits related to losing the flab, it will do wonders for your physical appearance. Don’t worry about your weight as a number, just focus on getting below 20% bodyfat, preferably around 15. If you just worry about how much you weigh without tracking your actual body composition you could end up in the ‘skinny-fat’ zone, where you aren’t large with a big gut, but you will be soft and doughy with little muscle mass to speak of.
Weight training is non-negotiable. There is no substitute for the way it changes your body for the better. Controlling diet is also mandatory. It is near impossible to “outrun your fork”, meaning that almost no matter how much you work out, you will be fat if you eat 6000 calories of Burger King every day. This post isn’t about the specifics of training plans, and there are limitless options available all over the web for free, so I am not going to go into details here. This article is about the importance of fitness in relation to your appearance. Just by not being fat you will be ahead of 30-50% of your peers in most areas. No excuses, you have to get in shape.
WEAR CLOTHING THAT FITS:
Walk around any city and you will pass thousands of schlubs shuffling around in clothing that fits terribly. Most are wearing stuff that is way too baggy in at least one dimension, mostly because……any guesses? They are out of shape! Which we already addressed. But the blight of poor-fitting clothing isn’t strictly a fatty affliction, as plenty of skinny nerds are donned in overly drapey duds as well.
I’m not even addressing fashion choices in terms of what kinds of clothing you should wear, I am talking solely about how the clothing fits your body. Fit is the most important aspect of dressing yourself, and applies as much to t-shirts and jeans as it does to a tuxedo. Tailoring is always the best way to make sure clothing fits perfectly, but it isn’t always necessary. Just don’t settle for mediocrity when it comes to off the rack fitting. Experiment with different brands and sizes until you find out what works for your body. I am relatively tall for my weight, with a fairly long torso but relatively narrow shoulders. Most shirts that are long enough are way too baggy, and look terrible. I have found that American Apparel t-shirts fit my body well. Find out what works for you. You’d be amazed at how much fixing the fit can improve the look of even a simple outfit like jeans and a t-shirt.
There is no reason to settle for mediocrity, especially when everybody is making it so easy to stand out from the crowd. Get in shape, and wear clothing that fits. You’re welcome.